Anxiety

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If I have veil’d my blog, I turn the trouble of my countenance merely upon myself

Hello.  Good morning.

I really wished that this would be the Thursday blog post that I would title with the unaltered Shakespeare quote, “The rest is silence”, which is Prince Hamlet’s last line before he dies.  Then maybe I would share a brief clip from the video for the Radiohead song No Surprises, the part where Thom Yorke sings, “I’ll take a quiet life, a handshake of carbon monoxide, and no alarms and no surprises.  No alarms and no surprises.  No alarms and no surprises.  Silent.  Silent.”

Unfortunately, this will probably not be my final fit nor my final bellyache.  I certainly still feel compelled to write this today.  I woke up quite early, as usual, and lay in my room just staring about, wondering if there was any excuse I could give for not going to the office, and whether staying at the house would be in any way better than just going in.  Neither seemed to be the case.  So, finally, I got up, showered, and decided to take an Uber to the train very early.  In fact, I arrived just as the first train of the day was pulling into the station, though I made no attempt to catch that one, since it was functionally impossible.

And now, here I am, sitting and sweating and writing.

A weird thing did happen as I was getting ready to go this morning.  I put in my earphones and pulled up YouTube Music and chose my playlist “Favorite Songs”, with YouTube doing its little self-promotion about some new, unrequested service it now provides or something, in which I had no interest.  Anyway, I tapped the “shuffle playlist” option, and the song/video that came up first was my own song, Schrodinger’s Head.  But the song that began playing was none other than the aforementioned No Surprises.  It continued to play, overtop of my own song’s logo and screen, even when I backed up to the beginning of the song.  It didn’t correct itself until I’d skipped to the next song and then came back, at which point it was my own song that started playing.

That’s a strange glitch.  Does it mean that the program loads “video” and “sound”, at least in YouTube Music, as two separate processes?  I usually just go for the song rather than the video option (when that’s available), but I have always guessed that doing so simply involved the suppression of the video portion of the file in some sense.  But I’ve not ever seen a mixed song and video from different sources.

Not that I’m bothered.  It’s far from insulting if a Radiohead song presents as if it were my own.  Well, it might be insulting to Radiohead, but not to me.

Anyway, I didn’t actually listen to either song at the time.  I realized that what I really wanted was actual silence, and just leaving the earphones in but not playing anything is the closest I can come to that.  Of course, tinnitus means I haven’t experienced full silence for about 15 years, at least not in my right ear, but I can try to come as close as possible.

My pain wasn’t as bad yesterday during the day as it had been on the previous two days, and that’s definitely a good thing, though now it’s acting up more severely again.  That’s not really anything new.

As I stood outside waiting for the Uber, the air was as usual in the morning lately:  stagnant and still in addition to being hot and humid.  But far up and away to the east and south were high clouds, and there was rather frequent lightning to be seen, then and when I was riding to the train.

We used to call that “heat lightning” and I think people imagined it was something different than usual lightning, but my current understanding is that it is the same electrostatic phenomenon, merely much higher in the air (where I suspect the resistivity is lower, though I may be wrong about that…in any case, there would be more cosmic ray bombardment to seed ionization paths for lightning to follow).

Of course, one never hears thunder from heat lightning.  Maybe that’s because it’s so high and far that the sound is thin even to begin with, since sound travels more slowly and less effectively through less dense media.  And then, of course, as it hits the lower atmosphere, trying to enter a denser medium (with faster propagation speeds) it might be unable to penetrate.  Indeed, there might* be a phenomenon analogous to total internal reflection, the process that, among other things, allows fiber optic cables to work with essentially no signal loss.

When light is traveling through a dense medium, like glass or diamond, in which it moves much more slowly relative to its speed through air or vacuum, and it comes to an interface where it would pass out into a much less dense medium‒where it would travel much more quickly‒if it strikes at too shallow an angle, it will not exit its current medium at all, but will instead fully reflect, effectively without any loss.

My first thought was that it was the opposite situation for sound traveling from high, thin air to lower, much denser air.  But then it occurred to me that it’s not the density of the medium that directly causes total internal reflection, or any refraction, really.  It’s the differential speed of propagation that causes refraction and total internal reflection**.  And sound travels more quickly through a denser medium, not less quickly, whereas light does the opposite.  So, comparatively slow sound in thinner, upper air, coming to denser, lower air, might reflect if it arrives at a shallow enough angle.

It’s somewhat like being below the surface of a pool.  We know that sound travels much better and farther in water than air, but if your head is underwater, you may not be able at all to hear people talking who are standing near the pool, and you might not even be able to hear loud ambient music (unless a subwoofer is in contact with the ground/floor and thence to the pool).

I think I’m more or less on track with this as at least part of the explanation for the fact that one never hears the thunder that accompanies very, very high lightning.  Of course, some of it could simply be ordinary attenuation, since the intensity of sound falls off as the square of the distance (as with light, also…this is one of those physical facts of reality that is directly caused by the geometry of three-dimensional space, nothing more esoteric and nothing less profound).  But that doesn’t seem to me to be an adequate explanation for why one never hears the sound of “heat lightning”.

Well, that’s enough ado about nothing for today.  It’s more than I expected or wanted to write.  I mostly just wanted to write some form of goodbye.  But the horrible, terrible, inexorable pressure of habit and routine in someone with a particular type of nervous system can be nearly as potent and irresistible as the laws of reflection and refraction and geometry.  I can only seem to escape such habits when I am forced by external circumstances to do so, but then new habits and routines‒compulsions, really‒take the place of the old ones.  I try to procure useful habits when I can, but one cannot entirely pick and choose such things.

I fear my only escape will happen when I actually die.  Of course, if time and space are fixed and super-deterministic, then even that might not actually be an escape.  As far as my experience goes, it might just lead to me starting over at the beginning, like a video being played on a loop.

Nietzsche actually used that notion (obviously not based in Einsteinian concepts, but it doesn’t have to be) as the basis for a thought-provoking question:  if you knew for certain that, once you die, you would then live your life over and over again exactly as it happened this time around, how would you change your current and future behavior?  Is your life now one that would horrify you to repeat infinitely, or would it be okay?

Inquiring minds want to know, I guess.  Or maybe not.

TTFN

no surprise

*This is just me speculating in real time.  If anyone knows the correct answer, please let me know.

**Thus the frequent demonstrative analogy used to teach about refraction:  a row of soldiers marching side by side coming at an angle to a place where they leave hard, firm ground and enter deep mud, which will tend to change the angle of their movement.  Alternately, one often encounters the story of a lifeguard running across the beach to save someone drowning, needing to judge the best place to enter the ocean to minimize the overall time taken to reach the swimmer.  Too much time in the water slows the lifeguard too much, too much time on land makes the path longer, and thus also slows the lifeguard.  The lifeguard’s path of least time turns out to be exactly analogous to what light does when refracting through differing media.  A brilliant, “for-the-layperson” account of the quantum mechanics behind this is given in Feynman’s QED: The Strange Theory of Light and Matter.

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It’s Mon the Day, callooh, callay.

I think I misspelled those borrowed words from Jabberwocky, but since they were just nonsense words anyway, I suppose it doesn’t matter.  I’m being sarcastic, anyway.  It’s certainly not any kind of frabjous day for me, or if it turns out to be, I’ll be very surprised.

I had the weekend off, as you know‒which unfortunately means I’m going to be working six days this week‒and now I’m getting ready to head in to the office.  I’m strongly tempted to get an Uber to the train station rather than waiting for the bus.  It’s wasteful, of course, but it’s easier, and the heat outside means even walking to the bus stop would leave me disgustingly sweaty.  Maybe I will take an Uber.

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Well, I didn’t take an Uber, I took a Lyft, because when I first looked at the Uber app, it was reading a price that was more than twice the usual rate.  I don’t know why; perhaps all their drivers were engaged already and the app automatically adjusts for supply and demand.

Anyway, it was a decent ride, but even waiting for the few minutes in front of the house for the Lyft left me copiously sweating, and I still am doing so at the train station, just sitting here on the platform.  I sometimes wonder if I’m profoundly ill in some way‒physically, I mean‒to be sweating so much at relative rest.  But if I’m that sick, why don’t I have more trouble on those days when I walk eight miles and whatnot?

I do feel physically quite a bit like crap, but a lot of that is just because of all my chronic pains.  Hips, knees, back, ankles, plantar fascia, belly‒when all these things hurt most days, it’s hard to muster a lot of energy.  It wears me out.

I wish I could go home.  By that, I don’t just mean going back to the house and skipping work.  I don’t consider that house “home”.  It’s just a place I go to sleep (a little) because I have to go somewhere.  I mean, I wish I could go back to where I grew up, where I had family and friends.

Of course, someone else lives in the house in which I grew up, and the city in which I grew up‒Pontiac‒is not in terrific economic shape.  The junior high and high school and at least one of the elementary schools I attended are closed, and are more or less abandoned.  Their likenesses live on in Mark Red and in The Chasm and the Collision, but only in my mind, really.

You probably couldn’t guess from reading those books that the schools were based on the ones I attended.  That’s fine, of course, from a narrative perspective; I’d prefer people to think of their own schools when reading the stories.  That’s more fun.  So the descriptions are at least a bit vague.

Anyway, I’ve veered off my point (how unusual!), which was just basically that there’s really nothing left of my home for me.  Nearly all the people I knew there are long gone, and even the company Pontiac Motors (a subsidiary of GM) is no longer in business.  The Pontiac Silverdome is also gone.

I’d still like to go back there, of course, though I know it would be bittersweet, and I entertain a fantasy of doing so in a fairly radical fashion.  But I don’t see myself being able to, for instance, go on a vacation there.

No, I would have to uproot and abandon my present life, more or less, and I don’t know how I would be able to start anything new elsewhere.  I don’t think I would be able to make any new connections, and I’m unsure of my ability to reestablish any old ones‒I’m very unpleasant and asocial, and I’m weirder even than I used to be, so I don’t think I’d be able to live with anyone else…or rather, I don’t think that anyone else would be able to live with me.

I really don’t see any available exit or escape, and I can’t really imagine any kind of rescue or help.  I also don’t expect that I’ll ever see my kids in person again.  That is the worst thought.  But I have no capacity to try to push the issue.  I don’t deserve them, anyway.

I wish I would collapse and just fall apart, do you know what I mean?  It will happen to everyone (and everything) sooner or later, anyway.  It would be nice if it were sooner, because I am tired of trying to continue, but I’m not built well for doing much of anything else.

I’m really, really tired.  And it’s just Monday morning.  The work week is just getting started.  I hate my life, I hate the world, I hate myself.  At least, I hate aspects of the world, and my life is a shambles, and I’m extremely tired of myself.  He’s such an annoying person.

All right, that’s pretty much enough for today.  I’m about two and a half stops from my destination, and I have nothing very interesting or useful to say, so I’ll start wrapping things up.  I feel very much that the world is inundated with some kind of caustic, disgusting effluvium, everywhere I go, so that everything in the world is tainted and not worth enduring.  But of course, no matter where I go, there I am, so it’s most parsimonious to think that the effluvium of disgust I find wherever I go is so seemingly ubiquitous only because I carry it with me; I am its source.  I’m not being saturated by the stink of the world, I’m saturating the world with my own stench.  It’s repulsive.

This is metaphorical, of course.  I bathe regularly and wash my clothes and all that.  As far as I can tell, I don’t literally smell bad.  It’s more of a spiritual fume of some noxious variety that I exude.  Unfortunately, I don’t seem prone to getting used to it.

Enough.  On that cheerful note and thought, I bid you farewell, and wish you a happy day and a happy week.  For goodness sake, look out for your family and friends.  And hopefully they will look out for you.

silverdome old photo

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Quietly turning the backdoor key

Here I am at the train station again this morning, early.  Hopefully that won’t backfire today like it did yesterday.  I guess if it does, that will be a data point telling me I should consider giving up on taking the train, at least in the morning.  I don’t know.  It’s hard to draw too far-reaching a conclusion based on the limited data of one person’s experience.

And now for a little, tangential aside:  It’s frankly absurd how much I’m sweating just from sitting at the train station at five in the morning.  The sweat is dripping into my eyes as I look down at my phone to type, as if I’d just been out for a long jog.

I had a nice conversation with my sister while I walked back from the train station to the house yesterday evening, and that’s a good thing in my life.  Also, that walking brings me to a total of about sixteen miles, between Monday and Tuesday, which is decent.  The shoes I’m wearing seem to be doing what they are supposed to do‒meaning they don’t seem to exacerbate my back pain with long walking, which unfortunately, the hiking boots seemed to do.  I’m still quite sad about that.

I’m sad and frustrated in general, of course.  This will probably come as no surprise, unless this is your first time reading my blog.  Even though I walked so much yesterday, and went to “bed” slightly later than usual, I still started waking up less than two hours later.  This is also despite continuing to take melatonin every evening (since I started it a few weeks ago).  I don’t know why I bother with the melatonin, but I feel as though maybe it’s doing something, though I’m not sure what that might be.

Maybe all it’s doing is letting me get the energy together to take some kind of action, possibly drastic.  I need to do something.  Yesterday at work, in the middle of the day, I shut the door to my office and lay down on the floor (I do this to rest my back a few times a day), and felt like I wanted to cry.  Nothing in particular set it off, but there it was.

I’m sick of everything, physically, mentally, emotionally, however you want to box up and pigeon hole the aspects of personal experience.  I’m tired of being in pain, I’m tired of not being able to sleep, I’m tired of feeling utterly disconnected from almost everyone I have ever cared about, and largely disconnected from those who remain.  Nothing is very interesting.  I get back to the house and watch YouTube videos of British comedy panel shows as I try to get to sleep, which I usually can do, but then I wake up all too soon, way before I’ve had even half of a good night’s rest.  I want to go to sleep.

It looks like my train is only a few minutes late; it’s arriving now.  For most people in this pathetic world, that probably even counts as “on time”, which slackness of mind surely goes at least part way to explaining the pathetic state of so much of our culture.  No wonder I want to escape.

It’s remarkable how cold it feels in the train when one is wet and sweaty from sitting at the station early in the morning.  I hate to complain about it, but it might be more environmentally and energetically sound to have the thermostat set a few degrees higher.  I’ve mentioned all this before.

I just keep going on and on about the same boring subjects‒pain, insomnia, depression, loneliness, nihilism, anxiety, all that‒and for that I apologize.  It seems I have little more to say about anything.

I’ve got to do something.  I can’t keep going on like this.  I don’t want to keep going on like this.  As I think I said yesterday, I have no hope or prospect of anything better in the future.  I have nothing to which I look forward.  I have no goals or dreams or aspirations.  I certainly have no right to feel optimistic, and I certainly don’t deserve to feel good about life.  I’ve disappointed, let down, hurt, failed, etc., nearly all the people I’ve ever cared about.

I really have no strong connection to anything in the world, certainly not to anything local.  I don’t belong anywhere, and I don’t really want to belong.  I want to rest, or at least just to have oblivion if that’s the best I can do.

I’m just about done.  Not just for today, I mean, though that’s also the case.  I’ve been venting and shouting into the void, hoping that it might help, that some insight might be forthcoming, either from my own mind or from someone else, but it’s no good.  It’s just a waste.  Everything is a waste.  I, myself, am certainly a waste.

I’ve done all the good in the world that I’m ever likely to do…and some of it really has been good, I think.  But that’s over, almost certainly.  Every aspect of meaning in my life has been steadily eroding and dissolving and decomposing for a long time, and now there are just ragged strands of residual connective tissue loosely holding together the bleached bones of what used to be my life.

I need just to get on with it and get out of here.  I’m spoiling the party for people around me who are trying to enjoy themselves.

Well, that’s more than enough for today, anyway, and really, it’s more than enough in general.  I hope you all are doing better than I am.  At least you’re reading; that’s good, all other things being held constant.  Keep reading.

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A somewhat more positive blog post. That may not be saying much, but take what you can get.

Well, it probably won’t surprise those of you who read my previous post to learn that I left the office early yesterday‒at lunchtime‒and came back to the house where, after eating a bit, I took a melatonin and half a Benadryl.  I’ll say this for that group of meds:  it was only a few minutes after taking them that I felt a strong pressure to sleep, and so I did.

Some of that may just be fulfillment of expectation, and I was, of course, very tired, but they are supposed to be rapidly dissolving melatonin tablets.  Benadryl never seems to act very quickly on me, so I hesitate to credit the fast onset of sleep to it.

I did wake up quite a lot during the night‒about like usual‒but at least the night was effectively longer, and I don’t mean that in the sense that it felt like it lasted a millennium, as I said yesterday about Monday night.  I mean that I was in bed for a good ten hours roughly, and that at least is something special.  I regret to have to inform you that my pain is only slightly abated, but with a bit of rest, at least it’s slightly easier to tolerate.

I’m writing this on my phone today, by the way, because there was no way in hell I was carrying anything I didn’t really need to carry when I left the office, and that meant no laptop computer.

I think I’m going to try to take just a melatonin in the evening tonight, to see if it works to help me drop off.  The fact that I still reawakened frequently throughout the night at least somewhat assuages my fear that I might oversleep if I take it.  I’m too tense about oversleeping anyway, so short of a general anaesthetic, I’m unlikely to sleep through my alarm.

That raises an interesting point for me.  I clearly have a sense of chronic tension, almost all the time.  I suppose it might be called an anxiety syndrome, but that never feels like quite the right term to me.  I don’t feel “anxious”, like I constantly want to run away, figuratively, but more that I’m constantly ready to fight.  Maybe that’s just an example of different people’s reactions to the same process‒the sympathetic nervous system function of fight or flight, which in me seems to tend powerfully toward “fight”.  Thus, in my song Breaking Me Down, I sing, “I always want to hit someone, but I never get in fights.”

I was strongly trained by my father not to get in fights unless it’s truly, absolutely necessary, and I think that’s good training.  But I always feel ready to fight (not necessarily physically, though that’s always an option).  I even keep weapons (nothing that can accidentally go off!) at my side when I sleep and in the office.

I know, that’s a bit weird.  It’s not that I actually expect to be attacked.  Of all the people I know in the office‒and most other places, really‒I am the one most likely to be inclined to violence, but I have always had exceptionally good impulse control.  I’m not even prone to act on wholesome impulses!  But if I need to get in a fight, I do want every advantage available.

In a sporting situation, fairness is important, but in “real life” I have no interest in fighting fairly.  A fair fight is one where you have a fifty percent chance of losing.  I want to bring that chance as close to zero as I can if things really matter.  I will cheat in any way I can if it’s a fight about something important, and I will feel that I have done right.  The leopard doesn’t offer its prey a head start if it can help it, nor does the prey wait until the leopard has a fair shot at it to run away.

Anyway, enough of that pseudo-macho stuff.  I just mean that, almost all the time, I feel defensive/semi-aggressive, though I strongly dislike getting in arguments (or fights, really), and even feel mortified and ashamed and self-hating if I make a heated comment online.  Sometimes I even feel nervous when I make a positive comment, as though I fear having to deal with anyone responding to me, even if that response is also positive.  It’s weird.  I suppose, to some extent, it’s probably simply the fact that I have always felt weird, like I’m crazy, like I don’t quite function like the people around me, even within my own family.  I think I’ve mentioned that here, before.

All that tension does wear you out, though, and if not tempered, or at least counter-balanced, by positive things, it can make life very unpleasant.  I’m not sure what to do about it, though.  Meditation can soften it, but as I’ve mentioned, meditation often seems to make my depression get worse.  That’s not much of an improvement, if at all.  So, I have my ongoing conundrum.

I don’t know, also, how much‒if at all‒that tension contributes to the worsening of my chronic pain.  It’s possible that it does a fair amount.

In any case, I would say that I probably have some version of chronic anxiety, but that it doesn’t present as what I would call “anxiety”.  I don’t feel worried or afraid, I just feel hostile and often even hateful.  If the Force were real and I had any affinity for it, I don’t see how I could avoid the Dark Side.

Anyway, I’m going in quite early to catch up on things I let go yesterday because I could not focus at all on anything important.  But this pain and this tension and this depression are really grinding me down, and I don’t know how much will and energy I have left.  I’m very, very, very tired.  Maybe if I use the melatonin every day, I’ll gradually feel at least a bit better.  Just because it’s not globally useful doesn’t mean it couldn’t help for certain people in certain circumstances.

If it doesn’t help, I don’t know what I’m going to do.  I keep speaking (or writing) about giving up and dying, but I keep on trying to find solutions or at least palliatives to my physical and psychological difficulties.  And I keep retrying lots of things that have failed before, in a sort of desperation to do something, anything, to see if I can feel less unhealthy.  I’ve not had a lot of luck, but maybe I would have been worse without the various things I’ve tried.  There’s no way to know, since I can’t compare alternate realities.  There’s also no way to know that I might not have been better than I am if I hadn’t tried to combat my dysthymia and pain.

Oh, well.  I’m probably wasting my time and my efforts.  But, if anyone out there knows of any brilliant new ideas, please let me know…but remember, they should probably be truly new, or at least not cliché.  I’m a trained MD, and I’ve read about and tried a lot of things beyond even that extensive training and practice.

The world isn’t made for us, and certainly we were never born to be comfortable.  It’s the feelings of dissatisfaction that prod us to act to stay alive and to thrive and to reproduce.  That’s good engineering, like smoke detectors being hyper-sensitive and fire alarms being extra jarring.  But if the smoke alarm gets stuck in an active position, leaving the alarm always going, eventually you’re going to want to cut power to it, and to hell with the risk of fire.  And if you can’t shut it off no matter what, eventually, you’re either just going to deafen yourself completely or leave the house.

That’s metaphor, of course.

I hope you all have a good day.  If you’re able to get good nights’ sleeps regularly, please make sure not to take it for granted.  And have a nap in my name, if you can!  I know it does me no actual good, but somehow it seems like a nice idea.