…wow. I’m really tired. I mean, both mentally and physically, I am very, unusually tired for the morning. Part of that is due to a particularly fragmented sleep last night, but as regular readers will know, that’s not too unusual for me. Part of it is no doubt also due to the lingering effects of the respiratory virus I’ve been dealing with for the past week plus, and for which I really haven’t had any rest to speak of, except Sunday. Part of it is just the general cacophony of people and sound and light that happens at the office and which leaves me feeling, at the end of each day, that I wish I could just spin a cocoon around myself and…I don’t know, metamorphose into the next stage of my life cycle or something.
A lot of it, though, is just that my mental energy, or drive, or enthusiasm, or whatever you want to call it, is just petering away steadily, and some days that lowering level interacts with other factors that make it more noticeable than others. I guess it’s a bit like a particularly cold day during a gradually oncoming ice age, or a marked dip in the stock market during a more gradual steady decline.
I know, those aren’t really very good similes, nor are they even really apposite. Is that the right word to use? Apposite? Would “pertinent” be a better choice? In any case, they are both rather contrafactual examples, because the general climate trend for the nonce is toward higher temperatures, not lower ones, and the various forces of the market are more or less engineered such that the stock market will, overall, tend to go up, as it has done now for decades. Maybe it would have been more relatable to mention a brief upturn in the market, one that is then corrected when things return to their more general trajectory. But that would hardly carry the message of the fact that I feel unusually tired, would it?
I guess I felt a bit of this tiredness yesterday, now that I think about it; certainly I felt a bit breathless, in general, to the point even where I got out the little portable pulse oximeter that I bought for the office—mainly because it’s cool that we can have such things so cheaply nowadays—and checked my oxygen percentage and my pulse. They were both well within the range of normal. In fact, my pulse was better than it usually is. So I was being a bit of a hypochondriac at that time.
But I do feel tired. I just want to be able to rest, not to have all sorts of interruptions in my environment, so many intrusions in my personal physical and mental space all the time. I wonder how much a sensory deprivation tank would cost. Probably a lot more than I can afford. Anyway, I don’t know where I would put it.
I’m not sure what else to write today. I’m just mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually exhausted. I wish I could just rest. I probably won’t even have Labor Day off; we’re almost always open at least part of the day during such holidays, since they tend to be good days for sales, as all the appliance stores and whatnot have all seemed to know for as long as I can remember. But I don’t seem to be able to relax, anyway, no matter what. I can only “relax” by crashing and burning. I wish I would just do that, now. It’s got to happen sometime, but I keep hoping for it and it doesn’t come.
Oh, well. I don’t know what I’m going to do. But this is probably boring and tiresome for all you reading. Sorry. It’s not as though I can lessen my fatigue by spreading it around, and if I could I probably wouldn’t. That wouldn’t be very nice. I’ll leave you here, then.
Well, this wouldn’t be a good day for Karen Carpenter—at least if the lyrics of one of her songs accurately described her feelings—because it’s a Monday, and it’s raining. Since both of those things, according to the song, always got her down, then the combination of the two seems likely to have done so doubly.
Unless, that is, the combination follows the rules of multiplication rather than addition. Adding two negatives produces a more negative outcome, but multiplying them together turns the product positive. Maybe then the combination of a rainy day that’s also a Monday would have boosted her spirits. I think she could have used a boost.
As for me, well, rainy days don’t tend to get me down particularly. They don’t necessarily cheer me up, either, though sometimes I enjoy them. Right now, the rain is here either as a consequence of or as part of the cause of a slight drop in temperature, which is nice, because it’s been quite hot and muggy with little to no respite for quite some time.
You’d almost think I lived in south Florida.
And as for Mondays, well, even when growing up I never had a big dislike of Mondays, and that’s not my only divergence from Bob Geldoff. I certainly didn’t dread school; I was always a pretty good student, and school was where I had my friends.
Also, I have usually preferred to have a purpose of some kind, so whether it was school or work, I never particularly disliked getting up and going in to either one. I like having a schedule, with things to do and a place to be at a particular time. If anything, weekends sometimes make me feel a bit lost, at least when I don’t have any family structure or any reason to do anything in particular. I just loaf around feeling rudderless.
Of course, this weekend, I definitely welcomed the rest. As I think I mentioned, all last week I was fighting a virus, and didn’t get a chance to take a day off, so I needed the break. As it turns out, I had to go briefly into the office on Saturday morning, because the other person with whom I alternate Saturdays had lost his keys, and our boss was already well on his way to Key West*, so he was much farther away that I was. It happens; I wasn’t too upset about it, but I really didn’t feel very well.
Honestly, I’m still not really feeling very well, physically, though I certainly feel better than I did on Saturday, when I was tired and grumpy and a bit out of breath. Now I’m just a bit out of breath, and a bit tired; but I don’t feel particularly grumpy.
Give it time, it’s early in the day.
I even brought my book of all Radiohead song chords to the house over the weekend, just in case I got the urge, during that time in which I was supposed to be undisturbed, to play guitar. I did not, of course—I could have told myself I wouldn’t—but then again, I wasn’t actually undisturbed, but rather got no fewer than four surprise impositions on my time and space. But I don’t want to dwell too much on those, or I will get grumpy.
I’m really just physically, mentally, and emotionally fatigued, I think, and it’s not something I enjoy. I certainly don’t get any kind of secondary gain from it, unless it’s the secondary “gain” of fulfillment of my self-hatred, since I can’t really socialize very well anymore, I don’t have the sort of personality that makes people want to spend time with me—I also don’t enjoy doing things such as most people seem to enjoy—and I frankly don’t even want to take the chance of trying to get involved with other people, since I have an almost 100% track record of alienating those closest to me, the people I love, and on whom I rely, the most.
Maybe Tennyson was an idiot, or at least simple-minded, when he said that it’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Or maybe he was thinking more along the lines of someone like Voldemort, who was incapable of love and lived a life of misery, making other people suffer, before dooming himself to an eternity of pain. That really doesn’t sound so good.
Shakespeare was a bit more on the money with Hamlet’s inclusion of the “pangs of despis’d love” as one of the things a person wouldn’t willingly bear if they could avoid it. And then there’s Fiona Apple, who in her song, Paper Bag notes that “Hunger hurts, but starving works when it costs too much to love.”
Not that poetry (or song) automatically has any access to truth, even if it’s beautiful. Just because someone can put words together nicely, in ways that catch people’s attention and appeal to their cognitive biases doesn’t mean that those words actually bear any deep wisdom. As witness: “If the glove does not fit, you must acquit.”
That’s the problem with rhetoric, as opposed to dispassionate argument. Often it “persuades” people because of the clever manipulation of the foibles of the human psyche, forged as it was in the savannahs of sub-Saharan Africa over the course of a million to a hundred thousand years, depending on when you start your cutoff. People can embrace non-sequiturs and internal contradictions without giving them much notice, if they trigger the right emotion or have a catchy beat or sound or structure.
This is why, unlike Mulder from The X-files, I don’t want to believe. I want to be convinced by evidence and argument…preferably the dispassionate kind. Passion is nice to feel, but when considering someone’s attempt to persuade you, it should be a warning sign, in them or in you or in both. Being passionate doesn’t guarantee that you’re not right, but even if you are, it may mean you’re right for bad reasons, and it doesn’t help your chances of getting things right. Passion is a decent servant but an unreliable master.
Maybe I worry about such things too much. Though even the words “too much” carry assumptions that, for the most part, people don’t notice or try to pick apart. Too much for what purpose, by what standards, according to whom, for what reason? If this much is too much, how does one determine how much would be just right? How much would be too little? What would be the good and bad consequences of any of these states, and would they be different depending on external conditions?
Probably I’m overthinking it. But what do you want from me on a rainy Monday?
*How ironic. Well, not, not really ironic. But it is an amusing coincidence of words.
It’s Friday, and this time it really is the end of the workweek for me. I’m pleased by that fact. Indeed, I came very close to abstaining from work even today. I’m just beat from this week, and I’m still not over whatever this virus is that I have. But I figured I might as well go into the office for the week’s last hurrah. It’s a slightly shorter workday than usual, anyway, and that helps me find to will to proceed.
I’m not sure what to write, today. I expect I’ll try to make this brief, since my energy level is rather low. There have been fewer “likes” for my blog posts this week than usual, and I’m not too surprised. I’ve been even grumpier and more negative than is my norm, because I’ve been ill, and people seem to prefer blogs with “uplifting” messages…whether they have anything to do with reality or not.
Also, the medicine I take to treat my symptoms—especially the decongestants—tends to make me more tense than usual (and that’s saying something!), and that doesn’t help make me more pleasant, I’m sure.
I guess the positive of this is, if I feel better by Monday, I’ll probably write at least a little more enjoyable a post, so that’s something for regular, loyal readers to anticipate optimistically. I don’t know what topic or topics I’ll address, but then again, I still don’t even know what topic I’ll address here today—as you can probably tell.
I’ve gotten on the train, now, and honestly, I’m already beginning to regret having decided to go in. I’m just so physically tired. But as I think I’ve mentioned before, being at the house is not really much more relaxing than being at the office, and at least at the office I can sometimes, occasionally, feel that I’m doing something useful. Also, at the office I have interpersonal interactions, which are at least a bit interesting, and there are even people there that I like.
It’s an interesting fact that I’ve gradually realized about myself that I’ve never had friends that I made just for the sake of having friends. I had friends, of course, good ones, but they were people I met at school, people I saw every day, and so I got to know them during the course of doing our other, mutual, purpose-oriented stuff.
If I hadn’t had school to attend—if I’d been home-schooled, for instance, or if my family had moved frequently from place to place—I don’t know if I would have made any real friends at all. As it was, though, my family stayed in the house in which I grew up right up until after I’d left for college, and of course, I was the youngest of three, so my home and school environments were pretty consistent, and I ended up making very good friends indeed, particularly through junior high and high school.
Then in college it was comparatively easy to make friends, because I lived in the dorms, and had a roommate. In fact, my roommate and I were able to get along with each other pretty well, so we stayed roommates throughout my time in college. And we made some other good friends along the way, and eventually, by senior year, five of us shared an apartment.
I feel bad that, for instance, my daughter’s university experience up to now has been basically done from home due to the pandemic. I would not have wanted to miss out on my own college experiences, though there were also many heartbreaking and difficult things that happened in college as well. But, of course, I met my kids’ mother in college, in the orchestra; we both played cello. I can’t regret that.
Now, unfortunately, the people at work are too different from me, and are in different situations, and I have trouble finding anyone that I could expect to spend much time with outside of work. And I’m not very good at doing social interactions that aren’t embedded in some other, more purpose-based endeavor. I think I’ve always been like that, but it didn’t present that many obstacles, because I’d always been pretty successful, and the purpose-based endeavors I was involved in were populated by people with whom I had at least some things in common. Then, of course, for a while I was married, and my ex-wife tends to be a much more social person than I am. And once we had kids, I had my family, and that was all the social life I needed or desired, and more than I probably would have ever thought I would have.
Unfortunately, now I don’t have my family around me, and my former career is thoroughly wrecked, and I don’t have the skill or even the comprehension of how to gather supportive friends or people with shared interests, so I’m pretty much adrift on my own. Of course, from a certain point of view, everyone is always adrift and alone anyway, no matter how many people are around one, but humans in general do seem to receive actual, measurable benefits from being in a community, which makes sense in a highly social primate species.
Whereas “Nexus-13, alien, changelings” like me are, well…come to think of it, I just don’t know any “Nexus-13, alien, changelings” like me. So I don’t even know whether I’d be able to make friends with one if I met one. Possibly not.
But, at least, I have the (I expect) uninterrupted weekend before me, and no pressing responsibilities, so hopefully I’ll be able to rest, if not to sleep. I hope all of you have a good weekend, too.
Hello and good morning, all. It’s Thursday again, the traditional day on which I’ve written my formerly-weekly blog for a few years now—I’m not sure precisely how long—and so, obviously, it’s time for my weekly, bog standard blog post. Welcome.
I’m not sure that this will be much different from just the posts I’ve been doing semi-daily. I suspect it will be less grumpy and irritable than the ones I’ve done the last few days, though I still am somewhat ill, and that fact influenced the tone of my previous two posts.
I don’t have any particular topic in mind, which is a bit of a shame. My post about Blowin’ In The Wind has continued to be quite popular (relatively), even though it was rather long. Probably that’s because it had a definite subject, but I can’t be sure what really makes it appealing. There are no comments on the post for me to be able to discern readers’ reactions other than their “likes”.
I understand readers’ reluctance to comment. At least, I have such a reluctance, myself. Whenever I comment on almost anything*, whether it’s a YouTube video or a Facebook post or, more commonly, a post on WEIT, I almost always feel stupid almost immediately, all but certain that I’m just annoying everyone, including the poster of the video or the writer of the website (e.g. PCC(E)). I almost always feel that my comments add absolutely nothing to the discussion and are just stupid, free-association, weird verbal tics that other people are just going to be confused by, at best, or will otherwise sneer about.
Then, if someone else replies to my comment and I see a notification of that fact, I start to feel tense and even nearly panicked. I worry that I’ve landed myself in what’s going to be some drawn-out, stressful, potentially acrimonious discussion, and I can barely even talk comfortably to people I’ve known my whole life anymore, let alone relative strangers. But I don’t want to be rude and not at least look at what’s been written.
So, I don’t take it personally that people don’t comment—except to the extent that I take everything personally. But when I do, I almost always blame myself, so don’t worry about that. It would be nice if I could have interesting and engaging conversations in the comments of my blogs, but I guess the blog itself doesn’t engender such things. There’s not much to do about that except encourage people to comment if they feel like it.
So, by all means, comment if you feel like it.
As for other matters, well, there’s not much going on in my life other than this blog, work, and being ill at the moment. I haven’t written any new fiction, nor played any musical instruments of any kind since the last time I mentioned not having written any fiction or played any music.
I did make a mildly amusing but very niche meme from that new, beautiful photo of the moon that those astrophotographers made. It’s a very nice picture, I must say, perhaps the nicest image of the moon I’ve seen, but being who I am, I was reminded of a character in Stephen King’s The Stand, and so I added my two cents to it. I’ll use that as my picture for this Thursday, so you all can either enjoy it or not, depending on how you react to such things.
It would be fun if the picture “went viral”, but I suspect my tastes are a little too weird for that to be likely regarding anything I find amusing. Anyway, if anyone doesn’t understand it and needs clarification, feel free to let me know—but use the comments here to do that, please, not the comments of Facebook or the reply function on Twitter. I come to WordPress every weekday, usually several times during the day, and obviously I note comments that are made on my blog.
I don’t even like to check my notifications on Facebook unless I’m feeling particularly mellow, because I feel thoroughly stressed out that someone is going to be chastising me for being depressed or something similar, which will only make me feel angry and more depressed, or saying something that I’ll find irritating, or whatever. Facebook seems to bring such things out in people. I don’t know the specifics of why, but the broad explanation is that it monetizes outrage, so of course people will be “rewarded” for acting in such ways, and this will tend to engender that overall attitude on the site. For many people, outrage seems to be pleasant, or at least “ego-syntonic”, but I hate it, and feeling it makes me hate myself ever more with each new occasion.
So, to repeat, if you want to ask me a question or to comment about something I write, please do so here, and don’t bother doing it on Facebook, and probably not on Twitter. Though, one-liner type jokes are decidedly welcome on Twitter!
That’s about all I’ve got—or “all I have”, to be more grammatical. I’m really tired and near the bottom of the tank in general. I really wish I could just go to sleep and stay asleep until I feel rested, or forever, whichever comes first. The world in general feels to me like I’m being rubbed all over by sandpaper soaked in lemon juice that’s squealing with a mosquito-near-your-ear noise and giving off a smell of mildew. Acid-covered sandpaper will tend to wear you down before very long.
I hope all of you, however, are feeling as well as you can. I hope you’re getting at least some enjoyment out of the summer and getting to spend time with your families. Labor Day (in the US) is coming up in less than two weeks, and I hope you’ll have family get-togethers, cookouts, and loud, happy conversations while the younger generation play outside and get dirty. Have some burgers and hot dogs and potato salad for me, would you please? But above all, please be good to those you love and to those who love you.
TTFN
*Frankly, it’s true whenever I say much of anything at all to anyone, verbally or in writing.
It’s Wednesday now—hello, Wednesday, you’re my second favorite member of the Addams family—and at least I think I’ve figured out why Monday night/Tuesday morning was particularly bad for sleep for me: I’ve been coming down with the respiratory virus that’s now going around the office.
It’s not COVID—we’ve been tested and all that—it’s just an annoying cold-type virus, but one that nevertheless made two other people in the office who had it stay home. Unfortunately, I could not stay home (or leave early) yesterday or today, despite feeling crappy, because one of the people who was out yesterday is the only other person who shares a crucial function in the office with me. And today I am even less able to stay home from the office, because in addition to the other work—and the fact that, for all I know, my coworker will be out again today—I have to process the payroll today.
Of course, I wear my mask on the train anyway, just as a general precaution, so I’m doing that today, even though by court order the CDC (or TSA, maybe) had to revoke its mandate about wearing masks on public transport. Because, you know, masks are a cruel and unusual imposition on the delicate faces of the great American pubic…I mean public.
I can’t believe what a bunch of panty-waisted whiners so many people are about wearing effing masks, if only just to at least decrease a little bit the odds of them spreading stuff to other people in the world (and with the added bonus of sparing their neighbors from having to look at their unimpeded faces). And a lot of these wimps are gun-toting Republicans, people who imagine themselves to be rugged, independent, frontier types. But they’re afraid of needles and afraid of masks, and afraid they can’t defend their homes and their Wal-marts and their ways of life without dozens of firearms each*.
I hope—I wish—that the next time any person who complained about mask wearing needs serious medical interventions, such as surgery, the whole surgical and medical team decides that masks are an unreasonable imposition from the Nanny State, and that avoiding increasing the risk to these patients’ lives is not worth their minor inconvenience and discomfort…and then proceed to cough and sneeze into the open abdominal cavity or chest or whatever part of the body that is getting treated.
And hand washing—that’s got to be an unconstitutional imposition as well, isn’t it? George Washington fought the Nazis at Gettysburg not just to throw off the yolk of the Roman Empire, but also to give all Americans the freedom not to have to wash their hands at the behest of dictatorial scientists who use their imprimatur of authority to seize and maintain their control of the top corporate and government positions all throughout America and the rest of the world. Just look how many top scientists are running nations and major corporations, making billions upon trillions of dollars each, every year…money that’s taken from hard working Americans on farm subsidies and disability, money that’s taken from their houses in the middle of the night at gunpoint, while they sleep, by Islamic terrorists who are part of the International, global Zionist conspiracy.
Okay, sorry, enough of that pretend rant. I just have no respect for wimps who can’t stand to take a little personal responsibility for tiny bits of inconvenience to help protect themselves and their fellow citizens. They’ll make all sorts of excuses—not very clever ones, usually—but ultimately their protests and complaints come down to tantrums about not getting everything their way. Most of the pundits in the media have all the character of spoiled toddlers who don’t want to brush their teeth and go to bed.
When I think about ways to kill myself, which happens rather often, I frequently rule out a lot of them right away just because they would inconvenience too many other people**, and I wouldn’t want to do that. But maybe I shouldn’t bother to take that into consideration. Humans in general don’t seem to worry too much about other humans being inconvenienced; why should I worry about inconveniencing them? Let them (hypothetically) deal with my messy corpse in the middle of their workday.
On the other hand, maybe the rude and irritating people, the people who are whiny and inconsiderate—not wanting to be inconvenienced themselves, but entirely willing to cause trouble for others—are simply noisier, more noticeable than all the other, finer people out there. After all, one doesn’t tend to notice the countless members of the public who go through their days quietly, politely, doing their part and yielding the right-of-way as it were. That’s precisely because they try not to cause unnecessary inconvenience to other people, but it makes them lower profile.
And the small fraction of people who are disgusting, whiny brats get noticed precisely because they are disgusting, whiny brats. And they make the rest of the human race look bad, and also they do far more than their share of damage to the world and to others.
If only we could find a way to isolate these people and prevent them from breeding. Oh, well. We’ll send at least some of them off to hold political office in the meantime, which at least gets them away from trying to do anything productive, where they’ll only make things worse.
Huh, that’s weird. I seem to have talked myself around to at least considering that the majority of the human race might be less reprehensible than I sometimes feel they are. I really must be sick. Anyway, try not to be too put off if I occasionally indulge my instinct for misanthrope; believe me, the one person in the world I hate most of all is myself.
*I am not a dogmatic anti-gun person. I’ve owned a few guns when I could, and I enjoyed target shooting; I shot competitively, in fact, and successfully. But there’s a difference between shooting recreationally or owning a weapon for potential personal protection (and training appropriately for that purpose, since otherwise it’s more likely to do harm than good) and fetishizing guns, the bigger the better.
**To be honest, though, it’s also often at least partly because I can’t see myself quite being able to work up the nerve to do them, at least not without getting supremely drunk or similarly impaired. For instance, I wouldn’t want to throw myself in front of a train partly because it would inconvenience a great many commuters…but it’s also just too intimidating a prospect, viscerally, when I consider it. Setting myself on fire with gasoline would probably be easier.
It’s Tuesday morning, in case you somehow didn’t know—or, I guess, in case you’re reading this at some time in the future, six sevenths of which will not be on a Tuesday. Actually, in the long future, presumably, the concept of Tuesday will cease to be relevant; indeed, it will cease to exist, and certainly once the Earth has been incinerated by the sun when it goes red giant, such things won’t matter. But then again, presumably no one will be reading this blog at that point. It’s hard to consider seriously the possibility that my blog might outlive the very Earth itself. It’s not impossible in the sense of being against the laws of physics, but it seems vanishingly unlikely.
Of course, if the Many Worlds (or as I like to say, the Everettian) interpretation of quantum mechanics is correct, then in some branches of the future my blog will probably still be read even beyond the days after the Earth in incinerated. Perhaps this will be because, in that branch (or, rather, that particular subset of the branches of the Everettian Multiverse) I am considered the savior of the human race, or the prophet of some new religion or something.
Now that’s a dystopian future!
As for the here and now, in case it’s not evident, I had a worse sleep last night even than I normally do. I feel vaguely as if I’m living in more than one of the many worlds of quantum mechanics at once as it is; certainly everything seems quite surreal and slightly distorted. I’m reminded of the line from Fight Club (the movie) in which the narrator says that, with insomnia, everything is a copy of a copy of a copy of itself. It’s not quite exactly the way I feel, but it captures some of the spirit of it. Anyway, I’m very foggy and ever-so-slightly delirious—more so than usual, I mean. So please excuse me if I seem even more absurd than usual.
If I seem less absurd than usual, then, well, I don’t know what that might indicate. I doubt that it would imply in any way that insomnia is good for me. More likely it would just highlight the chaotic nature of its effects on my nervous system and the rest of my body, giving superficial outcomes that might, on initial inspection, seem to be an improvement.
Believe me, though, they are not.
It would be one thing if I were going to eventually get the ability to see all the colors and auras and everything in the world, like in the Stephen King book Insomnia, including getting the ability to suck excess, unused energy from people and get healthier and “younger”. But, of course, I suppose then I’d probably be caught up in events that threatened the fate of all realities or something, and that would just be annoying.
Not that the real world is mundane or anything, except perhaps in the literal definition of the word*. The laws of physics, mathematics, the facts of chemistry and biology, astronomy, cosmology…these things are all quite amazing. It’s too bad so much of human history, and the human race in general, doesn’t quite live up to the universe.
Okay, well, I guess that’s a bit unfair. Humanity is whatever it is in the universe, and it could not be otherwise than it is, by the laws of physics. Everettian Many Worlds might seem to make things a bit questionable here, but General Relativity (which has a much more confirmed status) certainly seems to show that the past, the present, and the future** all already exist, or still exist, or “always” exist, whatever that even means when you’re talking about the totality of space and time itself.
And, yes, this implies that free will, in the purest sense, does not exist. But then again, how could it? It’s not even coherent from a philosophical or psychological point of view, let alone from that of physics. If you think you have free will that somehow rises above the laws of physics, then try drinking three martinis within the course of an hour on an empty stomach and choose not to be drunk. Your brain is a physical organ, and your personality, your alertness, your willpower, your self-control are all dependent on the state of that brain—indeed, they are part of the state of that brain.
For that matter, try having long-term insomnia and a neurodevelopmental disorder and chronic mood disorder and and see if it doesn’t affect your outlook and your ability to tolerate and deal with the slings and arrows of day to day life. Try not to be grumpy and impatient and diffident and anxious and stressed-out. Maybe the insomnia will be part of the cause of a chronic mood disorder for you; or maybe the chronic mood disorder causes it. Or, more likely, the things feed back on each other in the ridiculously complex system that is the brain, like a hurricane that becomes self-sustaining in the right conditions. Anyway, it’ll make you think and feel stupid things that will make you hate yourself even more than you already do, believe me.
At least, that’s the way it’ll work if you’re identical to me. Which you’re not, of course. Unless you are me, from the future, looking back and rereading this former blog post at some later time. But then, of course, you still won’t be identical to the me that’s writing this, will you? You’ll be a future version of me, later in my timeline, in the one future that exists, if there is only one, or in some subset of the many worlds of quantum mechanics, if that is the correct description of quantum mechanics. But whatever that future is or is not, whether there are many versions of it or just one, it will be whatever it will be, and the nature of it is and will be whatever it is and will be, and I do not have any choice in that matter.
Neither do you.
*From the Latin mundus for “the world”.
**Which, by the way, are not universal concepts but are applicable only with reference to any given world line, and any point, arbitrarily chosen, in spacetime. What’s past to some might be future to others, yet they all might be thought to be simultaneous to yet a third observer.
It’s Monday morning again. This keeps on happening, no matter what we try to do about it. Somehow, we’ve got to get together as a civilization to end this disastrous, senseless litany of workweek beginnings.
Human civilization is about as likely to be able to do that as it is any more important or “realistic” goals it might want to achieve.
It’s about seeing our governments as a kind of AI (Artificial Intelligence) which have, as a part of their nature, the same issues we have with AI alignment in general: that unless we are very careful with what terminal goals we give our AIs, they are likely to find the easiest workarounds—cheats, if you will—to satisfy the letter of their terminal values, because they certainly are not capable of grasping the “spirit” of them unless we are smart enough to give them that nature. The same is true of governments. The video maker brings this up as a way of possibly explaining the so-called Fermi Paradox*. His conjecture is that perhaps all governments in the long run tend to evolve into dystopias, and dystopias are not going to colonize the galaxy, and all alien civilizations that might have done so are stuck in dystopias.
I’ll embed the video here for your delectation. It’s not as polished and fancy as the one about the strong force, and it has no animations, but I think it’s an original, interesting, and troubling idea. I’d be curious to know what you all think.
Let’s get back to Monday, though, and what we can do about it. One possible solution to Mondays would be to develop our technology to the point where we don’t need to work at all, where all our actual goods are produced by robots and AIs and the like, so there’s no longer any need to get up and go to “the office” on Mondays.
I don’t think that’s going to work, so to speak. There’s the alignment problem mentioned above, of course, but there’s also simply the fact that we don’t work merely for sustenance. If that were the case, many people in the western world, at least, would only have to work 10 to 15 hours a week, maybe, if that. Unfortunately, humans are competitive—for individual resources, yes, but also for status, prestige, sex, power, all sorts of other things that will always be, in effect, scarce resources, because success in such things is always relative to other people. We work longer hours now than people did in the 1950’s, despite all the technological advances we’ve made since then.
Maybe we’re already in a dystopia. Maybe dystopia is the natural state of human civilization, just as it’s (arguably) the state of all those monstrous, gigantic trees, growing ever taller and taller only because they have to compete against other trees for sunlight. Humans are, after all, really just souped-up chimpanzees with delusions of grandeur.
Maybe the proverbial “quiet desperation” of daily life is the natural state of humans, because, even when basic and not-so-basic needs are met—food, shelter, water, sanitation, protection from most natural disasters, all that stuff—people always want to do more, to compete for higher social status, bigger houses, sexier mates, more “important” jobs, flashier bling, fancier cars, “better” smartphones. And, of course, like everything else in the universe, people can only respond to local forces, local incentives, so fixing things that are out of whack but in an equilibrium state (of sorts, anyway) is hard even to get started.
Ah, well. Life is complicated. We didn’t make the world, nor did we make civilization; it made itself, as I think I’ve mentioned before. It’s a spontaneously self-organized system. We’re ants in ant-holes. And remember, the queen ant, or queen bee, or queen termite, is no more in charge of the ant hill (or beehive or termite mound) than the Queen of England is actually in charge of running the day-to-day business of Great Britain or the British Commonwealth.
Even Putin isn’t really in charge of the moment to moment happenings in Russia. He has great influence, of course, but it is tenuous, and it is ephemeral. When he is gone, Russia will still exist, as it existed after Stalin, after the Tsars, after Genghis Khan, and so on. Essentially no one who was alive during the reign of Queen Victoria is alive today (no human, anyway—there might be a tortoise or two), and that includes Queen Victoria. And by the year 2150, unless very surprising things happen with respect to trans-humanism, no one will be alive who was alive during the reign of Queen Elizabeth II. Though she herself is surprisingly durable.
I don’t know what point I’m trying to make. Maybe I’m trying to make the point that there is no inherent or meta-level point at all, and I’m doing that by not trying to make a coherent point. That sounds cleverer than I’m likely to be, but maybe my subconscious is smarter and cleverer than I am consciously—well, it almost certainly is those things—and it arranged this on purpose. I doubt it, but I don’t completely rule it out.
In the meantime, though, remember that Monday is the day of the moon—the moon that was smiling madly but cheerily down at me this morning when I looked up. It should have looked much the same for anyone else seeing it at that time. And the moon is pretty cool. Remember Sting’s description of the moon, by way of Shakespeare, when confronted by a drunk who asked him to describe it: “My Mistress’s are nothing like the sun.”
*Basically, that our galaxy is at least twice as old as our solar system, and there have been potentially billions of years for other planetary systems somewhere in it to develop first life, then multicellular life, then intelligence, then civilizations, then high technology, and then presumably space-faring civilizations. Even at a slow rate, any one civilization—and there could have been countless such civilizations, potentially—could have colonized the galaxy by now, or least have produced technology some of the signatures of which we should have been able to detect. Yet we have found nothing. So, where is everybody?
It’s Saturday morning, and I’m at the train station quite a bit too early for the first northbound train of the day. I woke up much earlier yet, quite a bit earlier than I would need to wake up to get even to the train I usually take in the morning during the week. Yet the office opens for business an hour later on Saturdays than during the week, so there’s no office-related reason for me to get up or leave so early. I just can’t seem to sleep all the way through the night.
This morning, I woke up at about 2:30 am, and I couldn’t get back to sleep after that. This isn’t unusual. I do go to bed relatively early—starting to wrap things up about 9 pm, most nights—because even if I don’t get to sleep early, I still tend to wake up early, so if I want to get at least some sleep, I need to go to bed early. Then I can wind down and relax a bit, watch a few videos I’ve seen before*, and hopefully drop off before eleven.
Last night I was able to do that, but I woke up unable to relax again, so I decided to watch a video I had marked for myself to check out. It’s about the basic math and ideas regarding the strong nuclear force and “color” charge, as it relates to spin, and to regular charge, and to the Pauli exclusion principle.
It sounds dense, I know, but it’s actually quite fun—I’ll embed the video below, because I think anyone interested in such things might enjoy it. The guy speaking just obviously loves his subject, and even gets transported with delight in explaining the analogy to the way our eyes process “real” color out in the world, and how color television and monitors work. This analogy is, evidently, why physicists used the term “color” to describe the interactions in the strong nuclear force, which has nothing to do with actual colors as we normally use the term.
There are some vectors and ket notation stuff in the video, but it’s not really necessary to understand it specifically. The presenter does a good job of conveying the gist, and it’s quite wonderful. After watching it, I felt that I understood the strong force significantly better than I had before, and that’s one of those rare, reliable good feelings.
I often wish I had stuck with my original intent to go into Physics as a career. Unfortunately, my path was derailed when I was found to have a congenital heart defect** that had to be surgically corrected. Heart-lung bypass, such as happens when one has open-heart surgery, has cerebral effects because of the “unnatural” way the brain is perfused with blood during the process, and it often causes transient cognitive deficits.
This is not the only cerebral dysfunction that can manifest. I realized only in retrospect that I had another one as well—for the first few hours after I awakened from my surgery, I was blind. At the time I just assumed something was covering my eyes, in addition to the ventilator in my mouth, the three chest tubes, the straps holding both of my wrists, and the more-than-one IV line I had. I didn’t think much of the blindness because I had other things on my mind. It was very painful to have open-heart surgery, surprisingly enough.
Anyway, being 18 years old at the time, I recovered from a lot of the other stuff pretty quickly. But I had a a temporary cognitive deficit. It was not enough to make me need to take a year off college or anything—it never would have occurred to me even to consider such a show of “weakness”. I did, however, find the calculus and physics classes in second year as a physics major too difficult to keep up with, and that was frustrating.
It was not helped by the fact that I had been triggered—again, not at all an unusual effect of heart-lung bypass—to have a significant exacerbation of my dysthymia into what was probably my first real, full-blown bout of major depression.
Faced with my difficulties, and at that time thinking I would be in the Navy after college anyway, I had to switch majors to English. This is not a horrible thing, obviously. I love English—the language and the literature in general—and I love to read, and obviously I’m a writer. My overall GPA did, however, go down slightly compared to Physics (not counting the first semester after my surgery), and it turns out this was probably at least partly due to my other ASD. I had a terrible time in those small-group classes because I did not know when to comment, when to ask questions, or even where people were getting their thoughts and ideas about the various things we were reading. I liked the stories, and I liked wordplay and intricate language, but the process of discussion and interpretation and interaction about it all was thoroughly puzzling to me. And needless to say, writing essays that would please the professors was a tall order; I had no idea what they might want.
Obviously I got through the rest of college, though not without lots of heart-rending things happening—personal, familial, career-wise, psychiatric/psychological, physical***—and found myself deciding to go to medical school because I had to do something, I had relevant personal experience, and I love Biology almost as much as Physics. Medicine was a career in which I could do a lot of good, and it was basically zero risk.
By “zero risk” I mean, I knew that I could get into and pass medical school. The sorts of things required are right in my wheelhouse: standardized tests, Chemistry, Biology, dealing with things other people think are “gross”, remembering and understanding complex systems and their interactions—things with actual, concrete answers. And I’m actually pretty good at caring for other people. It’s not that it wasn’t hard work, don’t get me wrong. But it was work I knew that I could do, unlike—for instance—understanding what I should write to get an A on an essay about The Faerie Queene.
Of course, had I not gone into medicine, other things would not have happened that have been thoroughly catastrophic for my life, from which I have not even come close to recovering. But I cannot and will not ever truly regret anything that happened before the birth of children, so I don’t truly regret not going into Physics as a career.
But it would be nice to have someone around in my actual life with whom I could have conversations about stuff that really interests me, apart from stories, which I seem to have lost my knack for enjoying. At best, I can sometimes tell the other people around me about some interesting fact or concept, and sometimes they’ll appreciate how cool it is, but then that’s that. Anyway, I seem to have lost most, if not all, of the social skills I’d had in the past, so it’s hard even to imagine seeking out someplace to interact with such people.
Oh, well. No one (with authority to do so) ever promised that life would be satisfying, and many smart people have reckoned that life is inherently unsatisfying, so I have no one but myself with whom to lodge any complaints. The universe is the way it is. We were not asked for input when it came into existence, and we do not have veto power over any of the facts of nature.
I won’t endorse the old tee-shirt slogan, “There is no gravity—the Earth sucks”. But I will rather cheerily say, “There is no gravity—the universe is just warped.” It’s a nerd joke I came up with myself (though others probably have done so also), and so I like it. It’s also, basically, true.
*I watch previously seen ones so that I don’t get engaged in thinking about new things too late at night, because that can keep me up even more than usual.
**An atrial septal defect, shortened to ASD, but not to be confused with the more commonly seen modern acronym for Autism Spectrum Disorder, which I seem also to have. So, interestingly, I was born with two ASDs, one discovered at age 18 and surgically corrected, the other discovered or realized (by me, anyway) when I was just over 50, and it cannot be corrected, per se. I’ve done a literature search and skimmed through some papers, and it seems there is a higher incidence of such cardiac defects in people with Autism Spectrum Disorders, but the reason for the correlation is not at all clear.
***No one goes through open heart surgery without some physical sequelae.
To be honest, I work tomorrow, so it’s not as though it’s really the end of my work week, but I’ll still try to enter somewhat into the spirit of things. I might as well do that from time to time, right?
I hope not too many people were put off too much by my blog post yesterday. I was not feeling well at all—physically, yes, but mainly mentally—and I didn’t feel like pretending that I was. I’ve decided that I’m not going to try to court popularity, or whatever, with this blog, at least no more than is purely instinctual, but will just try to convey the honest thoughts and feelings that spring into my mind. Unfortunately—perhaps—for those of you who read this, my mind works somewhat a-neuro-typically, and always has, and I also have my irritating chronic pain and a longstanding mood disorder, so sometimes my thoughts and feelings will be unpleasant.
Actually, it’s entirely possible that, at some point, you may witness a full-scale and complete mental breakdown on this blog. Heck, you may already have witnessed part of it. In the spirit of Descartes, I can’t be sure that I haven’t already had a full-scale and complete mental breakdown before I’ve even started writing this.
There certainly seem to be weird numbers of people and vehicles about this morning, doing things they don’t normally do, but no one is doing anything that isn’t allowed by the laws of physics (as I understand them), there just is an unusual number of them. For instance, there are at least three people sleeping or near-sleeping on benches in the train station, and one person lying in the crosswalk bridge, but they don’t seem to be homeless people. At least two of them are actively using cell phones. It makes me wonder if there was an Amtrak train that was cancelled late last night or something, and all these people are waiting for one to come in the morning.
Of course, that doesn’t explain the weird number of cars out and about and seeming activity in a place that’s usually only operative on Friday nights and into the weekend. I haven’t lost track of the days, have I? This is Friday, isn’t it? I was wrong about the date of one of the posts I saved earlier this week, though I did fix it the next day, and the error didn’t show up in the post. My computer says it’s Friday, but I could, in principle, be imagining my computer. I don’t think so—none of this feels like a dream—but who knows?
I suppose that’s always the question, and it’s a notion that has been raised all the way from Plato, through Descartes, and up to and including The Matrix. I doubt that I’ll add any particular insights to the exploration. I just get stressed out when new things happen that interfere with my routines, but none of what I’ve described above has actually done so; it’s all just curious. If I were still writing fiction, I might even imagine a supernatural story that might involve these curious things happening, explaining them in a way that at first seems just banal—like the actual reality of the events that I am encountering—but turns out to be the first hint of something “unnatural” and possibly terrifying.
Meanwhile, my own mental deterioration, which is real*, is much more banal, and unfortunately, it doesn’t feel frightening. Not to me. I suppose the breakdown of a person with paranoid schizophrenia is probably a truly terrifying thing, from within and even sometimes on the outside. Mine is subjectively underscored by a diminishment of any feeling of engagement or connection, except sometimes in the form of revulsion and irritation. The irony is that I probably am in much greater physical danger—from myself—than a schizophrenic might imagine himself or herself to be in, but I don’t feel like screaming or trying to escape. And I know already that my cries for help are ineffectual.
I’m just skimming along in a passenger jet that’s running out of fuel (and which has no apparent other passengers, which is a good thing) over the contours of a wilderness, losing altitude slowly, unable to shift the controls no matter how I try, with a radio that apparently doesn’t work. If anyone is hearing my calls, they must be getting a lot of it mired in static, because no one seems actually to grasp what I’m trying to say.
Eventually, some bit of the landscape is going to jut up enough that the plane is going to crash—though I suppose it’s physically possible for there to be a happy accident and the aircraft will skid to a halt on a long flat stretch of prairie or something. It’s an awful lot to expect. All I can do, or so it seems, is buckle up and see if I survive when the crash happens.
Honestly, I’m not entirely inclined to buckle up. I’ve been on this plane for a long time, and it’s not got much to recommend it. The scenery outside isn’t interesting, possibly because it’s dark out. I can’t even seem to nudge the yoke downward to speed up the crash, though I have tried, and it seems like there might be just a bit of give in that direction. But habit, biology, and all the people who always tell you not to give up, make me think I’m supposed to wait and see if, just maybe, something will change, or a voice will come on the radio giving me new, useful instructions about how to get out of this situation and even, just maybe, get back to the place I was before, or someplace like it.
I’m not optimistic, though, either by nature or by anyone’s description. I figure that sooner or later, as I said, this vessel is going to crash. I don’t know for sure what shape that crash will take in the outer world. But if, one day, I suddenly just stop writing these blog posts, that’s probably what happened. I don’t think it’ll be tomorrow, but I can’t be certain. Yesterday was a very bad day.
The terrain I’m flying over is not perfectly level; there are hills and trees and even the ruins of old buildings, possibly not built by any human, scattered along it. There may be mountains jutting up at any point in my path. It’s hard to tell how high above the ground I am—I guess the altimeter is broken—but I’m not as high as I was a week ago, or a month ago, or a year ago. I’m losing altitude, and there is going to be a point where the air stops and a hard surface begins.
All right, sorry, I’ve pushed that metaphor more than far enough. It would be a shame to crash it into the ground, though perhaps I’ve done so already.
I expect I’ll write another blog post tomorrow, and if you’re interested, you can read it. I’m trying to take my masks off as much as I can, and my true face is not pleasant to look at, so I can’t guarantee it’ll be fun or funny or whatever.
But it will be me. How could it be anything else? I’ve never wished to be anyone else, though I’ve often wished I could be a better version of me, to quote Fiona Apple. I can’t even comprehend what it could possibly mean to want literally to be someone else. If I were to become someone else, then that wouldn’t be me being someone else, it would just be someone else. And there are already plenty of other people about who aren’t me.
Anyway, I guess that’s it for now, at least. I sincerely hope you’re all doing as well as you possibly can, which I should have said yesterday. Do your best to enjoy the absurdity and to surf on the chaos. I’m sure it can actually be great fun if you have the skill.
*Though today I am in a better mood than I was yesterday, I do not feel at all that I am in a normal state of mind. It’s just relatively better. All things are measurable relative to their local environment.
“Hello” and also “good morning”. It’s Thursday again—this time the 18th of August in 2022 A.D.—and so it’s time for another daily post and also for another edition of my longer-standing weekly blog post. And, of course, this being my Thursday, longer-standing blog post, I almost always start with some variation of “Hello and good morning”, so that’s what I did. It’s good to try to be consistent, all other things being equal.
I’m very tired, both physically and mentally, so I’m not sure what I’m going to write about. I certainly don’t have any fiction writing to discuss. I doubt whether I’ll ever write any fiction again.
Yesterday I very briefly picked up my guitar at work because I wanted to play the opening riff from I Feel Fine, since I’d started using it as one of my alarm sounds on my new phone. I ended up playing a bit more of the song than that, and then the opening of Wish You Were Here, and then I got tired and didn’t do anymore. I think that’s all played out for me, if you’ll pardon the pun.
I don’t really feel like I’m ever going to do anything that brings me real joy anymore. I doubt that I’ll ever see my kids again, though this is thankfully not because they’ve suffered any tragedy*; it’s simply that they have their lives and their pursuits and I’m not part of them and not particularly wanted. As I think I’ve said before, my son has only interacted with me once—to send an email to thank me for this year’s birthday presents—since about 2012 or 2013**.
I do have a knack for causing the people I really love to hate me or at least to hate having me around. Does that mean that I must love myself, since I certainly hate having me around? No. I’m a special case. I’ve never been able to get away from myself. I can’t even get a good night’s sleep to get away from myself for more than an hour or two at a time.
So, as I said, there’s no new fiction, no new (or rehashed) music, no new insights. I have some new puzzlements and minor irritations. For instance, in thinking about why people prefer some blog posts to others, I’ve noted—or been told—that having images mixed in with the post helps, and long ago I started putting pictures in my Thursday blog posts. Now, my popular Monday post this week didn’t have any image, but it did have an embedded video, so I thought maybe that at least helped explain its relative popularity. So I embedded one video in Tuesday’s post, but it didn’t seem to help that one.
Evidently, the things that make posts relatively popular are more complex or at least more chaotic than my simply hypotheses would support. This should come as no surprise. I doubt anyone has undertaken any rigorous, thorough evaluation of the nature of the popularity of blog posts or the like. There’s lots of data available, but it’s very messy, and the system is nowhere near any kind of equilibrium, so trying to figure out where it goes for what reasons would require real sophistication in statistics and related matters, and I doubt anyone who’s tracking blog posts is really bothering with that.
As I said, I’m tired. And that being the way things go, since I have no source of relief or rest, I’m getting steadily more and more tired. I’m tired, and I’m sad, and I’m lonely—but I can’t really stand being around most other people very much either, at least not the ones I see and encounter nowadays. All my old friends are thousands of miles away, and they have their own lives, and unfortunately, I’ve never been good at maintaining friendships with people at a distance.
It’s not that I don’t want to or don’t think about them. I just don’t really know what to do, or to say, or how to deal with such things, and I get very stressed out by them. I also don’t feel I have any right to intrude on other people’s lives and time, or anything to offer anyone. It’s presumptuous for me to imagine that anyone would want to interact with me at all, and I find most people inexplicable and unpredictable.
Being in the world these days feels for me like being one of those wild animals you sometimes see in news stories—a bear, a coyote, something more unusual, maybe even a tiger—that’s wandered down from the mountains, or out of a forest, or was released from someone’s private “zoo” and has found itself in an urban or suburban environment which is not where it’s adapted to be. Everything around it feels potentially hostile—and is potentially hostile—and so it must always be on its guard, always trying to avoid even those who might be benign, because it cannot be sure, and it’s made the mistake of thinking other creatures were benign before, only to have them become hostile (or reveal themselves to be so), and to damage it, leaving permanent pain and deep scarring.
Better to avoid everyone and to be avoided than to face more of that. There are no other creatures out there that seem safe or beneficial or even familiar enough to be worth the risk. Better just to lurk in the shadows, scrounging through scraps and garbage to find minimal sustenance, and simply to continue, until starvation or disease or something else gets you; it might even be something of a relief when that happens.
So, no fiction or music, but merely this metaphorical morosity is what I have to offer you. I’ll understand if this post isn’t popular, but I don’t really give a fuck at this point. It doesn’t matter. I’m sick of caring about things. And I’m tired.
FOFN
*Other than having me for a father, which I suppose is tragedy enough for anyone.
**Prison sure does wonders for making non-violent “offenders” shape their lives up, doesn’t it? We should send everyone to prison for a while, or maybe just select people randomly for the reward (as often seems to be the way things are done, anyway), and make sure it affects the rest of their lives afterward, curtailing their possibilities, making them unable to practice their professions, severing their ties with their loved ones, restricting their employment and other prospects, and just generally pouring concentrated acid all over their lives. If it’s good for part of society, it must be even better if it’s done for more people, right? Yeah, prison for the nonviolent non-criminals (in any legitimate sense) teaches important lessons, the main one being that “civilization***” is a fiction and/or is fucked, and it should probably be wiped from the surface of the universe. Possibly, even life itself is a bad idea.
***Which, remember, is just a spontaneously self-assembling structure, no more deeply important or planned or meaningful or ideal than a school of fish, or a flock of starlings, or an ant colony, or a “flange” of baboons, or a hurricane, or crystals of saltpeter that form in bat guano.
Robert Elessar 