I don’t have anything planned to “talk” about today, unlike yesterday, which makes this a much more typical‒though possibly less auspicious‒beginning for a blog post.
In any case, I feel the pressure to keep writing, because this is my only real contact with the outside world in which I share anything like my real, deeper thoughts and so on. When I bring such matters up at work, people tend to laugh a bit‒I can be relatively funny when I try‒but otherwise they tend to look a bit confused or just awkward.
I don’t know whether any of the people from back home, who might occasionally have encountered my blog via Facebook or Threads, will ever happen to come read it here. That’s one reason I always tried to encourage people to interact with the blog in the comments section below, rather than in the posts on social media. That way they are more sure to be able to keep getting the posts.
But I haven’t received any comments from any of them here since the Meta-based platforms kicked me off for no reason I can discern. I suppose it’s a lesson of sorts, not to place any reliance upon third party businesses that don’t even have an arguable fiduciary duty to me, since I am not their customer but their product (as are you, if you use them).
They clearly don’t feel any significant moral or ethical obligations toward the people who use their platforms. You should all remember that fact if the time comes where you have them in any sense at your advantage. Don’t be kind to them. To be kind to them is to insult those who do show signs of ethics and morality and good will, to those who deserve (whatever that might mean) and will appreciate kindness.
Whom do you think ought to be most rewarded by your good will? Which form of being do you want to encourage?
Of course, kindness being what it is (if it is authentic kindness, rather than someone just being “nice” or being “charming” as tactics for advancing their own interests) the tendency is to be kind to all comers. I get that, and I applaud it.
But the kindness of those who are truly kind‒or at least their ability to enact it‒is finite, as is their personal time and energy.
If one had unlimited strength and energy and time, one could simply be kind to everyone, and it would almost certainly make the world a better place overall, by most reasonable definitions. For kindness may not have the same immense R0 value, the same easy transmissibility as do malice and contempt and rudeness and anger, but when it takes hold, it can be much more persistent, and can change (for the better) the kind individual as well as those around them.
The negative contagions‒malice, anger, contempt, and so on‒tend to be self-corrosive and destructive, in addition to being highly transmissible. They are like the “Spanish” flu, or even like a highly virulent form of measles: readily transmitted but terribly damaging (and often fatal) to those they infect.
Kindness is more like‒I hope you’ll pardon the seemingly negative comparison‒HIV or HTLV-1. It can intercalate (or, to be technical with respect to the mentioned retroviruses, reverse transcribe) itself into the very DNA of those who “catch” it, changing them slowly and gradually but profoundly and‒unlike those two viruses I mentioned‒almost always for the better. And true kindness can be very difficult to “cure”, thank goodness.
But it is a finite thing, and there are always those who will make use of the kindness‒even just the implicit kindness‒of others for their own ends, without rewarding anyone but themselves any more than they must, least of all those who are unselfishly kind to them.
In any ecosystem, if there is “free energy” floating around, then sooner or later some organism is going to develop the ability to exploit it. And the exploiters can then readily grow and mutate and can even become pernicious or overt predators and parasites. In this, they can be like the fungi that had been breaking down dead matter, but which went on to develop the capacity to infect living bodies and even to manipulate some of them to encourage the fungus’s spread.
None of this requires conscious intent (there certainly is no such thing evident in fungi, for instance). It does not require foresight or planning. Ideas and strategies and ways of being simply develop and mutate and “try out” various seemingly available niches, never knowing ahead of time which ways of doing and being will succeed. It’s just that those organisms (or companies, etc.) who happen to stumble upon a useful and “profitable” way of doing things will happen to survive and grow and, relatively speaking, to thrive.
So, don’t give too much credit or admiration to the Zuckerbergs and the Musks and the Bezoses, nor to any of the others of their ilk, and certainly not to those who inherit success, like children born with an infection passed on by the mother* in utero. Their success is stochastic, and was certainly not thanks to any particular prescience or cleverness on their part.
They are no more inherently impressive than any of the thousands and even millions who tried to do similar things and failed. They simply happened to stumble upon a strategy that, in the local circumstances in which they found themselves, happened to work. And once a degree of success happens, it tends to be self reinforcing, ceteris paribus.
This is to no credit of the viruses and parasites in and of themselves. It is simply the way of economies and ecologies, no matter what such organisms may tell themselves to justify their actions to themselves and to assuage whatever rudimentary consciences they may possess.
Don’t waste your admiration, and certainly not your kindness, on those who happened to be in the right part of some particular phase space at the right time, through no virtue of their own, unless you would also feel fine giving that admiration and kindness to the many variants of influenza and coronaviruses and poxviruses and liver flukes and malaria protozoans and so on that spread and consume and have their various effects on the lives and bodies of other organisms.
And certainly don’t trust them to be kind to you or to anyone else.
*This is where my analogy with HIV falls short, but of course it was inevitably going to do, since HIV is pathogenic, whereas kindness does not tend to be so, nor does inherited wealth (except perhaps in more subtle ways). Perhaps one might think of kindness as like the first archaea that “infected” another type or archaea and became, in the fullness of time, our mitochondria. Okay, I’m pushing my analogies here, I know.

We often feel that being kind requires an effort that expends precious energy. But maybe what we really need to do is *let go* of the negatives (like greed, anger, stupidity, and especially our big fat egos) which are blocking the kindness. Then it will just shine forth unimpeded, like the sun emerging from behind the clouds.
Just a thought. 🙂
I think that’s worth a try, to say the least. Just don’t let those who are still infested with greed, anger, stupidity, and ego profit from the fact that you are kind while not doing anything to let go of their negative states.